Dear Dr. P,
I recently saw an article saying that oral sex causes oral cancer. How can this be true? It seems to be a scare tactic invented by sexual puritans.
It is both true and scary.
I too saw the article that clearly stated that oral sex was now the main [...]Continue Reading →
One of my friends acts really racist. It ranges from well-known racist jokes to full blown racist comments. I don’t mind the jokes, because we occasionally have unofficial “worst jokes you can think of” contest. And, in that context, it’s not bad, but she does it all the time and will make degrading [...]Continue Reading →
My girlfriend and I have been dating for several months now and we’re both really happy. In the first week of us seeing each other I was involved with another girl. It was more than a fling at a party but I didn’t consider myself to be “in a relationship” at that point. [...]Continue Reading →
Dr. P., Can a guy and a girl be “just friends”.
If you want the hour-and-a-half argumentative answer for your question see the excellent film with Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal called “When Harry Met Sally.”
Harry and Sally meet as college students and begin their life-long friendship which includes periodic renewals of their [...]Continue Reading →
“I recently learned that my boyfriend looks at a lot of porn. Should I be concerned about our relationship?”
There are two ways of answering your question. The first is by examining the behavior of your boyfriend, and the second is regarding your response to this behavior.
Today we find porn readily available in an [...]Continue Reading →
I’ve been having a lot of problems in school lately. I had troubles with some people on my hall; they keep getting angry at me for something that wasn’t my fault but I got called out on. They even started to “cyber-bully” me about it. I’ve tried to forget about it but I [...]Continue Reading →
Dr. P. Where do babies come from?
This is the truth. I was told that babies, including me, since I was asking about my own origins, were obtained from a woman on St. Louis Avenue one block away. When I asked the initial question at age four or five years old, “Mom, where did I [...]Continue Reading →
My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately. We love each other dearly but we can’t stop fighting. Every time one of us has a bad day or doesn’t get enough sleep or knocks something over we seem to argue. I’m not sure what to do at this point or how [...]Continue Reading →
How much sex is too much sex?
“Too much of a good thing can be wonderful!” said Mae West, a flamboyantly glamorous and funny actress of the 1940s. West was also a strident feminist and possibly one of the first sexually liberated women of the 20th Century.
When a strong double standard existed for [...]Continue Reading →
My roommate got a new job, so he has to be up early in the morning before I have to get up for classes. He texted me yesterday saying, unless I stop being loud and waking him up in the middle of the night that he’ll make a lot of noise and wake [...]Continue Reading →
Dear Dr. P,
What makes the ideal mate? And, why is mate and meat spelled so similar? How important is friendship versus love between guys and gals?
Your questions regarding the ideal mate and the similarity of the words “mate” to “meat” is very perceptive! Indeed, the two words have all letters in common [...]Continue Reading →
I’ve been dating someone for almost a year now and we’ve become very close. He’s practically my best friend, but we don’t seem to hang out as much as we used to. Most of the time he just wants to play videogames instead of doing something together. How do I get us out [...]Continue Reading →
“Dr. P, will ‘kinky sex’ ever become as acceptable as a normal way of relating and loving?”
Well, this depends on your definition of “kinky sex.” To most, this means those sexual loves, attractions, and activities that a cultural group or society regards as abnormal, atypical, and bizarre. The slang terms include “perversion,” “sick,” “deviancy,” [...]Continue Reading →
So in the aftermath of Valentine’s Day I noticed that all of my friends are either dating or cynical about dating. While I don’t care that I am single, I always notice myself becoming the third wheel. What should I do about this or is this just normal?
Dear Third [...]Continue Reading →
Dr. P. Valentine’s Day is so romantic. It’s such a contrast to the sex-oriented relationships you see on the soaps today. What do you think?
Let’s examine the season and its symbols. Is it all this seemingly innocent and romantic?
February: February has been the traditional time of year, after the winter solstice and during [...]Continue Reading →
I care about someone a lot, and I always want to be there for them, but I feel like in a sense I’m probably bothering them too much. We don’t get to see each other often. We do text but it’s hard for me to decipher their feelings. As their friend I worry [...]Continue Reading →
“Dr. P, Is masturbation ever harmful?”
Last column discounted the myths of harm from autoeroticism and listed damage done by anti-masturbatory thinking. Today, we turn to what science says about the likely benefits of autoeroticism. We do not address the religious-moral perspectives on the topic, which vary from very negative to permissive. So, as Elizabeth [...]Continue Reading →
I’m really stressed about picking my room and roommate for next year. I was really great friends with my roommate last semester, but now it seems as if we can’t get along. They came back from break different and it stresses me out. How do I tell them I want to pick a [...]Continue Reading →
By Nathaniel Rioux
In recent events surrounding the tragic event at Sandy Hook Elementary school, the debate over gun advice has been renewed. Hopefully, through the use of civil discourse and civil tactics, there may finally be a solution to this growing issue of mass murders in public settings. While there are many [...]Continue Reading →
Dear Dr. P: Some of my male friends and I were discussing the phenomenon that is referred to as “morning wood.” I had some questions about it that they couldn’t answer, even though it happens to their own bodies. What is the actual scientific explanation for morning wood?
I could say that “morning [...]Continue Reading →
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Roanoke Rising Campaign
by Meagan Cole
Everyone in the Roanoke College community knew something big was coming to campus when one of the biggest white tents and a dance floor appeared on the Back Quad one week before Alumni Weekend. As the weekend approached, rumors were circulating and videos were [...]
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