{"id":4437,"date":"2019-04-05T18:00:48","date_gmt":"2019-04-05T22:00:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/brackety-ack.pages.roanoke.edu\/?p=4437"},"modified":"2019-04-05T18:00:48","modified_gmt":"2019-04-05T22:00:48","slug":"men-if-you-knew-better-youd-do-better","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/brackety-ack.com\/?p=4437","title":{"rendered":"MEN: If You Knew Better, You\u2019d Do Better"},"content":{"rendered":"

Written by Shamira James<\/em> <\/span><\/p>\n

In my 22 years (gross, I\u2019m old), I\u2019ve heard a lot of arguments. I\u2019ve heard people argue if water is wet, if the world is flat and who is the worst, men or women. All of my guy friends often say girls are manipulative, emotional and confusing. <\/span><\/p>\n

Call me biased, but I\u2019m calling BS. I just really don\u2019t feel like guys see the full picture. They say men have selective hearing, and I think they have selective attention too. Trust me buddy, there are definitely two sides to every story, and it\u2019s about time you pulled your big boy head from your big boy nether-regions and realize YOU\u2019RE BEING A JACKASS. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sure, (one of) the girl(s) you\u2019re talking to is asking questions, \u201ccornering\u201d you, or she has another motive behind what she actually says, but did you ever stop to think (the answer is no because the times when you actually use your mind are few and far between) that the reason girls have to try and finesse an answer out of you is because YOU ARE PLAYING GAMES? <\/span><\/p>\n

I promise you, all anyone wants is the truth: the truth about what you want, the truth about what \u201cthis\u201d is, the truth about just exactly who that girl is you\u2019re always texting, but you swear it\u2019s nothing. If you were just a man, for one, and not a coward, she wouldn\u2019t have to be as \u201cmanipulative\u201d as you think.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s completely normal to have emotions and yes, girls experience emotions to the hundredth degree but that\u2019s just because we\u2019re passionate by nature. When we feel, we feel deeply. Boys are agitators, it\u2019s in your blood, you push people because you want to know your limits. Boys literally love a challenge, so then by that logic, you truly have no place when you push a girl to her – no wait, PAST her limit. Calling her a crazy liar when she knew the truth literally the entire time is such a dick move. <\/span><\/p>\n

Guys calling girls confusing is the biggest pot and kettle situation of the ages. People are confusing by nature, the element of surprise is basically a survival skill. I won\u2019t disagree with this but I\u2019ve have never, and I mean ever in all of my sun Capricorn, moon Scorpio, rising Taurus life, met a boy who was straight-up with a girl. He might tell his boys what he wants with a girl, but he will have that girl out here like Boo Boo the Fool all because he won\u2019t cut her off, but GOD forbid she goes ghost for a week, then all of sudden, she can\u2019t fend him off with a stick. You either want her or you don\u2019t YOU CANNOT HAVE IT BOTH WAYS.<\/span><\/p>\n

So what\u2019s the point of all of this? Why am I sitting here essentially doing a longform Twitter rant? Because this a WAKEUP CALL to all college-age men. You all think you\u2019re so untouchable right now and why wouldn\u2019t you? You\u2019re at your most charming, most attractive and even most sexually active period of your life. But I have a newsflash for you buddy, it won\u2019t last forever. <\/span><\/p>\n

Just how long do you think you can go around being this damn inconsiderate and oblivious? I\u2019m trying to do something your friends, teammates, brothers and whoever else won\u2019t do: I\u2019m calling you out. There\u2019s no more excuses for your behavior. You either shape and do right, or you stay a sad little shell of a man, the choice is yours. If you knew better, you would do better.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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